What Kendrick–I Mean Jesus–Taught Me

Hello beautiful people!!

I am currently writing this post from the same spot I’ve written/watched/read/eaten many things over the past few days: on my bed–in my room–under a softly whirring ceiling fan–in a hushed household. The only thing that I can hear right now is the occasional click of the pull cords as they are being knocked into each other by the air the blades produce. 
A set up like this gives one mucho time to sit and think, wouldn’t you say?
If you’d asked me last week, before Wednesday at around 11:45am, I’d would’ve told you my big plans for this week off (my school is on an intercession break). Honestly, a lot of resting would have been included, but also, evenings out with friends after class since I had no work to wake up for. Impromptu early morning movies with only a few retirees as my company. Cleaning my car. Cleaning my room. Cooking sumptuous breakfasts with things like French toast and pancakes, things I don’t have time for during the week. None of that included rolling my ankle at work and fracturing the fifth metatarsal bone in my foot (while walking down the steps no less.) 

I was fighting crime. That’s my story and I’m sticking to it! 

My plans didn’t include hopping around like some ratchet species of kangaroo, crying in frustration that first day while it took me upwards of 15 minutes to get from the car to my bed, wrapping scarves around my crutches because they were killing my underarms, or needing my mom to help me undress from the waist down.

 None of that. (Side note: Is Randy wearing foundation?! I digress.)

But it is always my goal when crappy life stuff happens to find my good. There is good in most things–I think that you HAVE to view life that way to keep from being either incurably bitter or certifiably crazy. Silver linings MATTER. 
1. Rest

One upside of not being able to use one foot for an indeterminate amount of time is that you have to rest. I’ve discovered that I like to rest and be a homebody–on my own terms. When I have the option to do otherwise. After 24 hours of being propped up in bed, I decided that I was going to work Friday if it killed me. And while that probably wasn’t my smartest decision, it turned out that Friday was the kind of emotionally charged day at work where I needed to be around people both to give and receive comfort. I have this entire week off to rest and recuperate, though. Friends have come through with junk food and participated in binge-watch marathons, I’ve been keeping my foot up, and hopefully this will aid in the healing. I’m blessed to be in a position that allows me that time to rest without affecting me financially–I remember a time when my check would have looked markedly different had I had to take time off for an injury like this. The Bible says in at least 20 different places how important it is to rest; for spiritual reasons, such as recalibrating our spirits to the voice of God…but also physically, we burn out if we do not rejuvenate. 

2. Be humble 

I’m not going to lie; by yesterday, I’d had enough of being patted and pitied. I was ready to screen print a shirt that said “I FRACTURED MY TOE” so that people would stop asking. I was irritable and frustrated and I’m sure, more than a little snippy. (I apologize to any recipients of that!) I was over the crutches and the slowness of movement and the being forced to rely on others for basic tasks. And then I went to church. Wouldn’t you know it, Pastor Stephen preached on the need for humility. Talk about putting me in my place and stomping all over my toes!!

He said 

• You cannot be humble and justify yourself at the same time. 

• You cannot be humble and have “but they better nots…”

• You cannot be humble and wear a stopwatch. 

1 Peter 5:5 says to be clothed in humility because God resists the proud. Ouch. So as much as I like to be the doer, the planner, the maker, the bringer, this space means that I have to not just deal with my current situation, but use it to practice putting on a sense of humbleness that I thought I had but which might really be situational. 
3. Accept help 

This is my mother. She, unbeknownst to me washed every stitch of clothing that I own (only slightly exaggerating!) yesterday while I was at church. I mean, this woman washed staff shirts from jobs I don’t even work at anymore!! My first reaction was to cycle through shame and annoyance and admonish her for going through my stuff and doing something that I am completely capable of…but then I thought…am I capable?! I am on crutches!! How was I going to drag my hamper and walk down the hallway to our laundry room, balance myself on one leg and load the washer, dry and fold? This goes back to humbling myself. I had to fight against feelings of inadequacy, “being a bother”, etc and let myself be taken care of! Still though, stop with the pity. Enough, already. 

Anyway, I am (hopefully) off to the ortho tomorrow and he will (hopefully) tell me that I can ditch these crutches, wear two shoes and DRIVE sooner rather than later. In the meantime, I receive the message from Kendrick, I mean Jesus, that sometimes, stillness is spiritual and humility is a skill that always needs working on. 

*lifts crutch in solidarity*
Yours always,

A Teacher Left Yesterday (Poem)

A teacher left yesterday.

She left a note in sprawling cursive on the board

Saying “you are great girls, but life happens”

Code for: this isn’t what I signed up for

Code for: the hell i’m going through ain’t worth the dividends.


When you found out, you cheered

Quickly shushed and having the grace to look remorseful

You said “i mean, she was too soft”.


Why do we have to be hard to get your attention?

Preparing for battle, helmet against the

Thoughts that tell us we suck at this, that we make no difference.

Breastplate guarding from the arrows of disrespect and disdain?


This is one long metaphor about contributions from self to our own inequality/


Bad enough that the building leaks, that mice reside within its walls

That antiquated tampon machines painted shut still chillin’ in the bathrooms

As heralds to how long these walls have stood.

Bad enough that bars crisscross windows from the outside and half of

The windows house bolts to keep the bad guys out.


These are the things we can’t control

The rolls of dice, the unfortunate of luck

“The price on the menu of attending a city school”.


But what of the typeset on the bathroom stall?

BICTH written in robotic text?

What of the throwing of hands and the insults disguised as greetings?

What of the taking pride in making people cry?

What of the mistreatment of those stalwart and crazy in love enough to teach you?


You are inhabitants of a world where your zip code and your melanin gives others

Reason to hate you

At the very least, reason to assume they know you

You MUST be handled roughly. It is all you know. You don’t have feelings.

In the classrooms down the street they are referred to as “friends”,

In singsongy voices full of pride and sugar

In here, your friends call you dummy without flinching.

Those with a birds eye view think that you are savage, as are your friends,

As is your family. You are step above beast.

We tell dogs to heel. We order you to sit.

Believe me when I say it shouldn’t have to be like this.

Who looked at you and decided that you are incapable of reason?

That you don’t deserve logic? That you are beyond love?

Worse yet, when did you start to believe it too?


When someone doesn’t believe that they can handle your fire, let them go.

But mourn a little bit at the flower that didn’t get to grow.

Get a little angry that people go in and out of your life like

Plastic horses on a carousel. At your age, unfortunately loss feels familiar.

But do not rejoice. Accept, but do not congratulate.

You are worth so much more than ephemeral and sometimes.

My 30 is Not My 20


Hey beautiful people!

 I am roughly 4 days from my birthday and staring 30 right in the face. One thing that I have seen a lot is posts claiming that 30 is the new 20, along with all types of algebraic equations so that people don’t have to call themselves what they are. (“I am 20+10…NOTTTT THIRTY”!) More power to you, but…

What’s wrong with 30?

Before I begin, let me state the fact that this post doesn’t come from a woman who has done everything that she set out to do by 30. Not even close! I look back at lists that I wrote, and depending on the day, I either laugh at my folly or shake my head in despair (kidding.) But this post DOES come from a woman who is saved by grace, oand that means that even my missteps have the aroma of a second chance clinging to them.

Here is why, for me, 30 is not 20


  • At 20, I was in a dead end situationship.



I haven’t been a serial dater, so I don’t have a whole lot of horror stories, but the ones I do have are pretty spectacular in their awfulness. I can’t remember which, but if the years line up correctly, I was either wasting my time with the African boy who was trying to marry me quickly for citizenship (yes, really), the Friday’s waiter boy who told me that I was too “white bread” (i.e. not willing to live on what he considered the wild side), or the Armenian Hopkins boy that was perfectly content with making out on a computer chair in his dorm room but not much else. These weren’t all simultaneous, I just can’t remember which one I was talking to 10 years ago. The common vein that runs through all three is that none of them valued me. This has something to do with their own respective immature mindsets and EVERYTHING to do with my lack of self worth. Let me be transparent here: I am aware of the dating mistakes in my lineage. I know what I want out of a relationship–and I “knew” back then, too. But a love language of words of affirmation that was unrefined and not prayed over manifested itself as CRAVING acceptance and love from some pretty incorrect sources. In order to have a love language, you have to love yourself enough to know what you need from somebody else. My 30 is not my 20 because I love and like myself enough to know (and bounce back quickly to knowing in my weaker moments) that I am worth a lot to God spiritually, physically, emotionally and mentally. As He whispered in my ear at 24: “you have saved yourself this long and THAT’S what you give yourself to? No, girl”

  • At 20, I was in unhealthy friendships.


See above. When you don’t know who you are or Whose you are, you are liable to accept whatever comes your way because you are grateful for the company. I was friends with people with whom there was an unhealthy balance of power—I was constantly seeking to make them happy and there was no reciprocity. There was also a lot of drama present–I was spending time with people who were making unwise choices and reaping the results. I’m not really a fan of Tyler Perry’s movies, but one thing that Madea said that has always resonated with me is “I would rather be by myself in the corner with a puppy and a goldfish than live with somebody in my house and wonder what the h*ll they’re here for.” I often say that peace is paramount in my life. I am past the point where drama and pettiness and tit-for-tat and controversy is fun. Of course, I love people and I value what they bring to my life, but I also wholeheartedly believe in getting a return on my investment–not in money per se, but in energy, effort, and time. The Bible says in Romans 12:10 to take delight in honoring each other. Another translation says to outdo each other in showing honor. I have some friends that I see once a week and others where we go a couple of months between visits, but the greatest common denominator in all of the people that I count as close friends is that current of reciprocal love that flows between us. My 30 is not my 20 because, although Madea was talking about her real house, metaphorically, my house is my life and I keep friends in my house whose purpose I never have to wonder about.

  • At 20, I wasn’t confident in my professional worth.


Around that time, I was working in an unnamed family fun spot here in Baltimore, and was making exactly 7.00 an hour. Whew. It worked for me because, like your average 20 year old, I didn’t have many responsibilities. I had my license but no car, a Virgin Mobile cell phone, no rent to pay—my little 300 dollar checks were golden! There was one problem though. I signed a contract that said that I was to make 7/hr for the first 90 days, after which I’d have a performance review. If they were pleased, I’d be bumped up to 7.25/hr for another 90 days and then I’d have another review. If they were satisfied with my work after those 180 days, I’d be bumped up again and top out at a whopping 7.50/hr. Somewhere along the line, I got wind that new people coming in the door were starting out at 7.50, with the same quarter raise every 90 days until they topped out at 8.00/hr. In my mind, this wasn’t fair–you mean to tell me that after being a loyal and model employee for a year at this point, someone who was just starting to work there would make the same starting salary as what I currently made after working up to it? But do you know what I did? I complained to myself and commiserated with coworkers…and I stayed there for roughly another year before pursuing another opportunity. Not once did I go to management and state my case and ask for a raise. Not once did it occur to me to challenge the status quo. In the book “Women Don’t Ask: The High Cost of Avoiding Negotiation–and Positive Strategies for Change”, Linda Babcock says that 46% of men are willing to negotiate their salary, while only 30% of women are. Out of those above percentages, 39% of men are apprehensive about the negotiation, and 55% percent of women are. While men are expected to bargain, wager, and argue, women fear being perceived as argumentative or a “nag”…simply because of asking for what they feel they deserve. When women DO negotiate, however, they are quite successful. I was a great employee at Unnamed Family Fun Place–I was always on time, respectful, good with families and schools, a team player, and in uniform. Chances are, had I negotiated, I would have gotten that raise! Fast forward to this year in my job as an assistant teacher, I really tried my best to be a model employee. I showed integrity, outperformed expectations, tried to think of solutions before problems arose–and it paid off! I was asked to take on some leadership duties–and guess what some of my first  questions were about: compensation. My 30 is not my 20 because I understand that my time and my talent are worth something. People will take all that they can for the free.99 if you let it be known that that is your modus operandi. It is no longer mine.

  • At 20, I had analysis paralysis.



I cared a WHOLE lot about what people thought about me. Do you know how exhausting it is to weigh every interaction, every move, every conflict, and every notion against the perceived potential judgement of other people? There were things that I did not say that should have been said and things that I should have protested but didn’t because I didn’t want to make a scene. I looked at friends of mine who have always been the ones to say what others are thinking and thought how much better they must sleep at night compared to me, lying awake with all of the things I wanted to say running circles around my head. My 30 is not my 20 because, while I am still not a fan of a confrontational conversation, I have learned that as long as my Lord and my mama are pleased, I am ok. (Sometimes, not even my mama….we had to work on her excitement for these tattoos and the nose piercing). Everything ain’t for everybody, and while I have a network of trusted girlfriends that have earned the right to critique my life decisions, my life is my own at the end of the day. In the Spirit of the Lord, there is FREEDOM, and that means freedom from the weight of what people think. This year, I pierced my nose, traveled abroad alone, shook my behind at a silent party with my sis and my headphones to keep me company, and drove to Virginia for a conference at the spur of the moment. And it was great. The year isn’t even over yet!


There are countless other examples, but these are four big reasons why I am excited to head into this third decade of my life. I have learned so much, and it is my hope that with these lessons, I can avoid some of the heartbreak of my 20s. I predict that these will be my best years yet!!!

The (Un)Bearable Blackness of Being

“For there is nothing heavier than compassion. Not even one’s own pain weighs so heavy as the pain one feels with someone, for someone, a pain intensified by the imagination and prolonged by a hundred echoes.”  -The Unbearable Lightness of Being, Milan Kundera

Hello beautiful people,

I’ve missed you! There is so much that I have wanted to say. I don’t know about you, but when I get overwhelmed (in this case with words that I want to write), sometimes I find it easier to not write at all. This is just one of many attempts to process some of what I have been seeing and feeling lately.

Recently, I went to go watch a student of mine march with her band on a steamy Saturday afternoon. It was muggy–the kind of “a 30 second monsoon is imminent” kind of disgustingly muggy that makes one feel as though they are swimming through pea soup. Everyone was assembled in what basically amounts to a parking lot in front of an old vocational skills center. There was no shade and no seats in sight. And it was LIT.

Let me recap if you missed it. Humid day, hanging out in an empty lot waiting for festivities to begin, and it was SO much fun! Watching people prepare for their band’s turn to go on, talk and laugh, sprinkle water on faces or on washcloths draped on heads to keep cool…listening to the DJ at the far end of the parking lot encouraging people to invite others because “we need to support our kids when they are doing the right thing!” it occurred to me randomly, as it often does nowadays:

MAN….I really love my people! I mean, we can make a celebration out of anything–growing up, I can’t tell you how many times a simple summer Sunday dinner of grilled food ended up being a cookout–Mom and Auntie would invite a few people, I would invite the bestie and a few others, someone would throw 92Q (if I had my way) or 95.9 (if I didn’t) on the radio and stretch the cord to sit in the doorway, Scrabble/cards/dominoes/Jenga would come out, and there you have it…insta-party.

I flash back to when my great-grandmother passed during my junior year of high school. Sad occasion, yes. But one of the first things that I remember my mother or grandmother saying was that the family was all wearing winter white. Why? Because this wasn’t a funeral, dark and depressing complete with weeping and gnashing of teeth. This was a celebration of a 91 (i believe) year long life that had been VERY well lived. My great-grandmother deferred college for herself for years and made sure that every last one of her siblings would have a chance to go. She loved her man with everything in her and together they loved on their daughter, grandchildren, and in my great-grandmother’s case, my cousin and I. I have fond memories of her making me big ol’ country breakfasts when I stayed at her house and saving my behind when I did something worth getting in trouble for.

When I was little, I used to hear the pastor say “hallelujah, anyhow”. Things may go completely awry, but if you can find just a small glimmer of hope, just a slight reason to have joy, you can make it. This is a post celebrating what I feel like we do best as a people–we rise above the nonsense, refuse to let said nonsense define us, and do what we can to find a “hallelujah anyhow”. These are signs of  our resilience.

Every May, you see the prom parade commence. When I left for my senior prom back in (gasp!!) 2005, my mom probably laid out a few snacks, everybody took pictures of my date and I in front of the hot pink azalea bush in my front yard, and that was that. My aunt-by-marriage’s mother (to this day, I am not sure how she ended up seeing me off) stuck a 20 down my dress “for emergencies” (yes, she stuck it there herself), my grandfather probably mildly threatened the life of my date, we hopped in my uncle’s Escalade and rolled out. Nowadays like clockwork, you hear stories of parents shipping in three tons of sand, several luxury cars and a CAMEL for an epic Dubai themed prom sendoff.

Also, like clockwork, you hear the naysayers (actual comments below):

“Why do those people put so much emphasis on appearances?”
“I wonder if she even has a job–wasn’t she sick?” How’d she afford it?”
“I bet she hasn’t invested that much in his college education!!”

(Just so we are aware, Johnny Eden, Jr. had a 3.8 GPA, his mom wanted to honor his excellence, and she WAS incredibly sick but promised herself that if she lived she’d celebrate her son. I don’t know if she has saved for his college education, but that’s not really my business.)

There was an article posted by The Washington Post about Baltimore ( and presumably other low-income, high-violence cities) and it talked about how these cities tend to go all out for high school graduations and proms because there is a high probability that they won’t have a significant amount of happy events to celebrate in the future. People are being killed. They are dying from high rates of preventable and non-preventable diseases. Drugs are running rampant. Nihilism is at an all time high in these high trauma neighborhoods…people report feeling trapped in the cycle. The talented, the bright, the motivated are encouraged to take hold of every opportunity that they can and LEAVE.

A few days after the humid parking lot marching band extravaganza, the news hit that the officer who murdered Philando Castile would not be charged in his murder. A wave of anger followed closely…theoretically, wasn’t Castile doing all of the things that we are told that we must do in order to spare our lives when speaking to police. Remain calm? Did that. Keep hands where they can be seen? Check. Generally be an upstanding member of society? Yes. Respond to officer demands? Yup. And still, another death certificate was being crafted.

In the book “The Unbearable Lightness of Being” Kundera weighs Nietzsche’s philosophy of eternal return (that with an infinite amount of time and a finite number of events, events will repeat themselves) with Parmenides’s understanding of life as lightness. It seems to be that the lives of Black people in this country are filled with the eternal return of situations that shouldn’t bear repeating.

Every time another acquittal scrolls across the screen.

Each time a star football player who is a standout in the league gets blackballed for silently protesting injustice.

Every time a #BlackWomenAtWork hashtag needs to be added to because we feel invisible in the workplace.

Every time a person paints themselves in Blackface and doesn’t understand (or care about) the implications.

Every time a movie is cast and people don’t understand why _______________ is Black now.

For every microaggression, every ill-timed joke, every comment, we feel that unbearable Blackness of being…

And yet.


We inevitably choose lightness. We choose to BLAST Frankie Beverly and Maze and two step with a drink in hand. We choose to scream and yell and go absolutely nuts when our collective babies graduate and beat the odds. We choose to have debutante balls, crab feasts, bull roasts, step shows, fetes, prom sendoffs, marching band exhibitions, praise parties and hilarious gender reveals. There was an article on the HuffPost that said “Black Joy is Black Resistance”. I agree. We choose that lightness of being.

And I am so glad that we do.


With This Broken

Hello, light streaming through tattered Venetian blinds,

I see you, slightly askance, kind of walking in what you were placed here to do but not really. Your purpose has taken a gangsta lean and you find yourself wondering what the point is if more often than not, people have to contort themselves to figure out what you are even doing anymore. 

This post is for anyone who has suffered a storm, a setback or a situation. For anyone who has been knocked off course, for anyone that, if they are honest with themselves, has lain in bed in the midnight hour clinging to the precipice of a promise with no real faith in their grip. 

I used to be you. I’d be lying if I said that my mind doesn’t still occasionally attempt to flirt with that line of thinking in the dark. 

I was talking to a friend of mine through text tonight who happens to be in med school. B. is the kind of sisterfriend that turns what she touches into gold–or at least that’s the way it seems. I don’t want to trivialize her hard work though because I know sis is out here grinding like bad brakes, but from outside the windows looking in? She’s effortless genius personified. 

She was telling me that she starts clinical rotstions tomorrow–and after I asked her what specialties she’d be working in, she said, among others, psychiatry and the surreal nature of working in a psychiatric hospital. 

I don’t know why, but parts of my story that I don’t think I’d told her before just poured out onto the “page”: that I can believe how surreal it is because I was diagnosed as clinically depressed when I was 18–and it is because of this that I can (only slightly) identify with the idea that the mind has a mind of its own and it’s no joke. That’s to say nothing of people that are really out here in the trenches of schizophrenia and manic ideation. Like, I had INCREDIBLY low self image–something that looking back, I think was on the edge of my personality for awhile (cue self deprecating jokes, etc) but really manifested in college when I was surrounded by girls who loved to drink (expertly, at 18!!!) and party and with whom I did NOT mesh well. And I remember my sleeping patterns and my eating patterns being shot to heck, and thinking at 2am that the only people who may have loved me were like 120 miles away. And the mind plays tricks–how disappointed everyone would be if I failed at this. If they were enjoying their everyday lives without me in it, etc. BUT!! My relationship with God during that time went from something that was really on the periphery of my life to being my sustainer. I think back and God actually brought people into my life even during that dark/low period that needed to hear a word from Him. I was able to introduce people to Christ even while in my storm, and for that I am forever grateful. 

And that brings me to the point of this post. I don’t know what has happened in your life so far. I don’t know what setbacks have you weary. But I have a feeling tonight that someone out there on WordPress, or that I am connected to through one of my social media accounts may be on the edge of their destiny staring into a chasm of fog, not knowing where to place their next step. I need you to know this: 

Whatever it is that has bruised you and battered you and perhaps even broken you might be the very thing, the most transformative and transparent part of your story that compels someone else to keep on keeping on. In my own example, I think that God illuminates women to me who are struggling with self image. Now, is mine perfect? Nope–it is eons better than it was though, and I take pleasure in telling these women that they are loved and known, worthy of honor and adoration NOT because they look good but because they ARE good. Every time that happens, every time someone walks away from me and they are heading towards feeling like they are valuable, I send a silent thank you upwards. 

Who would have thought that 18 year old me, struggling with what I perceived to be my invisibility, would be charged with the responsibility of loving on people past the point of reason? Who knew that in some respects, this would actually be my job–to have young women watch as I treat everyone from the custodian to the executive director of my school with the same care. Who knew when I was sitting in my dorm room alone, clinging to the edge of my purpose with tension? 

God did. 

Think of the story of the Samaritan woman. I love John 4, and every time I read this chapter, I find something new. This time, it was that this woman had quite a past–and quite a present. According to the scripture, ““The fact is, you have had five husbands, and the man you now have is not your husband. What you have just said is quite true.” She’d been married a handful of times, but she was also sharing a bed with someone she wasn’t married to. This probably wasn’t the vision that she had for her life–I wonder if SHE ever wondered what she was supposed to do with all of her brokenness?  Then Christ showed up. Their conversation challenges the dichotomy of the time in which the scripture is written–this unwed woman is conversing with a man she doesn’t know like this is conventional. She challenges Him. She digs. And ultimately, she runs to her folks saying that she has found the fulfillment of prophecy. She runs to them saying “Yo, this guy told me everything I ever did–all of my bad AND my good. He sees my mess and He’s still here!!” {Stephanie translation hahaha}

 And the townspeople were like “whaaat?”
Here’s my favorite part though–that 39th verse in John 4: “Many of the Samaritans from that town believed in him because of the woman’s testimony, “He told me everything I ever did.”

Honey, this is what you do with your broken. Don’t hide it. Don’t pretend it never existed. Don’t sanitize it for the onlookers (thought the temptation be mighty). No, take your broken in one hand and your calling in the other and carry them both as you walk in this world and talk about what is really real. 

So hello, streaming sunshine that peeks through the spaces where the blinds are missing. You are so beautiful. I don’t know if you are taking the form of the sun pushing in or the blinds trying to hold it as it escapes through fingertips but you–yes  You–are worthy and you have purpose. You are still useful, still important, and there isn’t a storm or a demon in hell that can change that fact. 
The world is aching for someone to change it with their broken. And so am I. 
Love you (mean it),

(*Just a note: I will never sit here and say that medicine is a crutch. If you are dealing with mental health crises, please–get help and get medicated if the doctors think that is the best course of action. I am all for hugs and journals and candles and fresh air curing what ails us, but it would be silly to pretend that among all of Gods gifts, modern medicine ain’t one. Self care is priority.)

Living Is Enough

Hey there. 

It’s been awhile since I last posted. Life and insecurities got in the way and convinced me that a couple of posts a week weren’t a really impactful way to make a difference, and I slowly stopped using this platform. But God, being who He is, isn’t going to place gifts in us and then allow them to remain stagnant and unused. Shoutout to Kathy, who stopped me one day at church, looked me dead in the eye, and said “remember how MONTHS AGO I told you how well you write and how you needed to blog and you told me ‘I actually have one that I need to revive’? What’s happening with that?” That very same day, I came home and renewed my domain. Kathy, this post is due in large part to you. Everyone needs a little spark re-ignited from time to time. Thank you for sharpening my iron!
This post is actually about the power of words that don’t come from me. Sierra, this post is in large part because of you as well. 

So I have (refuse to say had) this coworker named Sierra. I am convinced that there are a few roles in every place of business that employees slide in and out of at will. This isn’t an exhaustive list, but you have the watercooler prince(ss) who knows all the comings and goings. There’s the unsung hero, who does superhuman things with the time and space and opportunity that we are actually all handed–they just leverage it well. There’s the cheerleader, who sincerely believes that

As a character foil to the cheerleader, there’s the negative Nancy (or Nathan maybe, if it a guy. Nate? Nehemiah? Whatever.) NN can find the awful in everything. There’s the slacker, who has perfected the art of doing the least and retaining gainful employment. And so on, and so forth. In this scenario, Sierra is the unsung hero–the dream team all in one petite teacher package. She collaborates, she plans, she does, she supports, she does more, etc. She was intimidating (to me, anyway) for the first half of the school year because she seems to have it on LOCK. 

She is pursuing other opportunities now, which means it is going to be really surreal to walk past her room in about a week and not see her in there with the lights low and computer open, preparing for the day. I could always count on a chipper “Morning!”  from her as I called out hellos while walking down to my room. Sierra has done a lot for the school I am a part of and everyone in it, but one thing that I doubt she knows that she did is relieve so much of my anxiety about joining a new school. 

Since I last posted, I became a teaching fellow at an all girls middle school, and it has easily been one of the tougher years of my life professionally. There were–are–many days that I don’t feel like I know what I am doing. There are some really challenging kids, and for someone that is used to winning kids over, there are more than a few that I still can’t figure out. Am I working with these kids well? Am I supporting my co-teacher? Am I being the right mix of loving and firm? Am I friendly? Am I communicating to these kids that I may be friendly but I AIN’T (yes ain’t) your friend? Am I leaving no doubt in my administrator’ mind that she made the right choice in taking a chance on me? Most importantly, am I representing God to the best of my ability? I don’t walk around balancing a Bible on my head to improve my posture, but I am definitely open about my faith and how it guides my thoughts, actions and opinions. It can be a lot. 

One of the last days before spring break was one of those kinda days. I’d gotten frustrated with my resource block and had taken come back to my room at dismissal to fire off a few emails and head to my own classes, and I honestly would much rather have gone home and dove under the bed until the next day. I opened my laptop and I see–a letter. From Sierra. 

If you don’t know, words of affirmation are my love language. Keep your trinkets, keep your flowers, PLEASE KEEP your cards where you only sign “Tim” and keep it moving (such a waste). But to take some good old fashioned notebook paper (or stationary) and write me a note makes my day on a good day. On a not so good day, it was everything I could have hoped for. Before I even read the letter, I thought to myself, “this is going to make you cry”. And my soul said, “yup, and that good cry is going to reset you so you can finish your day.”

I was ok until I got to this portion:

Cue waterworks. I truly think that within that letter lies the highest compliment that someone, especially a person of faith, can receive. It affirms that yes, I am doing this work with intentionality and excellence, but also that I AM MAKING MY FATHER PROUD WHILE DOING SO. What more could I hope to achieve?

I was talking to a friend later about how I boohooed like a fool at work, and she said something that I thought was pretty on point:

“Living is enough”

What I took from that goes back to the passage in the Bible about spiritual gifts; 1 Corinthians 12 says “4. There are different kinds of gifts, but the same Spirit distributes them. 5. There are different kinds of service, but the same Lord. 6. There are different kinds of working, but in all of them and in everyone it is the same God at work. 7. Now to each one the manifestation of the Spirit is given for the common good. 8. To one there is given through the Spirit a message of wisdom, to another a message of knowledge by means of the same Spirit, 9. to another faith by the same Spirit, to another gifts of healing by that one Spirit, 10. to another miraculous powers, to another prophecy, to another distinguishing between spirits, to another speaking in different kinds of tongues,[a] and to still another the interpretation of tongues.[b] 11. All these are the work of one and the same Spirit, and he distributes them to each one, just as he determines.

There is a metaphor later in the passage that reads that we are all parts and pieces of one body doing different functions for the Kingdom. Folly would tell us that if we aren’t preaching, then we aren’t doing anything, but that simply isn’t true. I am serving my community and my God by showing up to work every morning and honoring my coworkers and my students. Someone else serving by preparing food, repairing vehicles, taking care of the earth or guiding people to financial freedom. Living–purposeful living–can be enough. Please remember that–please hold ME to that if I ever internalize the lie that blogging isn’t a ministry and a way to serve God in and of itself. Sierra, thank you for the timely reminder. Blessings in your next steps!!!

Go To The Source

Shall I bring to the time of birth, and not cause delivery?” says the LORD. “Shall I who cause delivery shut up the womb? ” says your God. (‭Isaiah‬ ‭66‬:‭9‬ NKJV)

Hey beautiful people!

     My mom has been sick these past few days with an upper respiratory infection. It’s crazy though, because it seemingly came out of nowhere. All of Friday, she was fine, woke up at midnight Saturday with her throat in fire and spent the rest of the weekend stuffy and hoarse, only leaving the house to go to urgent care. 

     I called her after she left the doc yesterday, and as she told me that she got a diagnosis of pharyngitis, I expressed surprise at its progression and then ended my statement with “well at least you got some good drugs to knock it out!”.

     Her response? “They didn’t give me any drugs”! I was flabbergasted. How could these doctors see the same congested, scratchy and sore throated woman that I did and not offer her relief? “Why did they not give you meds?!”, I demanded. 

     Mom said basically, that what she has isn’t going to be made better by an antibiotic–it has to run its course. She did mention that they offered her a lidocaine gargle solution that wasn’t going to make her better, per se, but would mask the discomfort while her immune system was fighting the good fight. In the words of mama, “I wasn’t paying good money for mouthwash!”

     I agreed with her, but I sat up in the dark this morning and what I heard in my heart is, how many of us are using some kind of numbing agent to mask the pain that we are really in rather than deal (or let God deal) with the issues at hand? See, just like that lidocaine gargle solution wasn’t actually going to do anything about the viral infection that caused my mother’s pharyngitis, the things that we cover ourselves in to mimic healing are just as seductive…but at the end of the day, they are just as ineffective. Just like that mouthwash would wear off and reveal a throat that still hurts, the sex and the drugs and the cutting and the extra shifts at work and the time spent with the wrong people and the bottomless glass of alcohol all wear off and reveal a heart and a soul that is still hurting, if that’s what you call yourself trying to mask. 

     Love, I don’t know what you are going through out there in the universe. I don’t know if the family that you thought you knew has become largely absent. I don’t know if the weight of your shame or insecurity or resentment or loneliness has crept up on you in all of its enormity. I don’t know if you feel like there are parts of your personality that are a fluke and that don’t serve you well, but what I do know is that your pain serves a very real purpose. So does my mother’s, so did mine, etc. 

     In the most basic physical case, isn’t pain a sign of something wrong in the body? Pain doesn’t ordinarily just occur. There is a disorder to the regular functioning and pain is your intricate system’s way of letting you know to stop and examine. In my mother’s case, this is a woman with an immense work ethic, and this upper respiratory thing is causing her to take the first few days of the week off from work–something that she never ever does. So maybe this was her cue to rest. 

     Wouldn’t the likewise be true in the soul sense? Pain is a sign that something isn’t going right. Something in the intricately crafted purview of your spirit and your heart isn’t functioning, and the Lord will let you know. Masking that pain rather than finding things to go numb really is just participating in the age old lie that if you ignore it, it will go away

In the scripture that is at the beginning of this quote, God is saying to the Israelites, a people in much pain, that He would deliver them, and He did so using the imagery of a mother in labor–aren’t the allegories in the Bible cool?! Anyway, we’ve all known someone in labor. Even if we haven’t, it doesn’t take a scholar to know that that joint HURTS. 


     The pushing, the opening…that pain is a signal that the body is preparing to push through new life. God is telling the Isrselites that He wouldn’t see this pain happening, a pain that was the indicator of a new thing happen—He wouldn’t bring them to this point and leave them stranded. There was a delivery in process.

     I’ve heard many a mom say that after the tears and pushing and expletives (ha) that when they gaze down into the eyes of their baby, it all instantly becomes a distant memory. As a person with a very low physical pain threshold, I don’t know if I believe all that, but I do know from experience that when you finally make it out of your situation, when you lean into the pain and wait for the breakthrough, what comes after makes you understand the pain if not appreciate it. 

So I’d encourage you, like my mom, don’t pay for or run toward things to mask the pain of your circumstances. Run toward the Healer. Cry and scream and grit your teeth as much as you have to as long as it means that you don’t go numb. The comfort is coming. 

Be blessed, 


One More Day One

Hello beautiful people!

“But this I call to mind, and therefore I have hope: The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

Have you ever been so full with words…yet not know what to say?

So much has happened. Personally, but globally as well. There have been moments of great joy, but also of a pain and confusion that transcends conversation. In my own life, I have seen Hebrews 11 come to pass; God has shown that having extraordinary faith and believing Him for big things isn’t a lost cause. I decided to search for a new job: despite my deep love for my school, I needed more. But the fear of a new start tried its best to stifle my joy when a new opportunity did in fact come around the bend. 

“I have said these things to you, that in me you may have peace. In the world you will have tribulation. But take heart; I have overcome the world.”

As we try to grasp faith with our fingertips, we see the world in the clutches of what feels like madness. Last week we saw several more people of color die at the hands of law enforcement. Conversely, we saw something like 9 LEOs become the target of what seems a sniper style situation, with 5 casualties. As a country, we are reeling. As people of color, we are raw, hypersensitive, hoping and praying for someone to say the one thing that will ease the pain and solve the confusion but also silently pleading for them not to say the wrong thing from deep within their privilege that will wrest the already straining cap from the pressure cooker. Those on the opposite side of the color line are angry, confused, scared of looking like the monster by the door, and for the most part it seems like a continuation of the usual. It is difficult to maintain faith while dealing with the same things that our parents and grandparents did. 

“Come, Lord Jesus…come”

I’d been searching for a way to articulate everything and failing miserably, but this morning I had a bit of an epiphany when I went to check out a health center near me. 

I ended up joining and  posted a picture of the membership key tag that they gave me with the caption “Day One”.

Immediately after I posted it, I sardonically thought to myself, “this is like your fifth Day One, kid” 

The thing is…that’s true. I lost something like 70lbs about 5 years ago, and have put most of that weight back on. I’ll jog for awhile and stop. Swim for awhile and stop. Attend Zumba for awhile and…you guessed it, stop. 

But guess what else? Having 5 Day Ones isn’t a bad thing. A Day One signifies a fresh start, and the amazing thing about loving and serving the God that we do is that He is the arbiter AND the author of our second, third, and eighty sixth chances. 


The scripture at the beginning of this post comes from Lamentations, and the part that sticks out to me is “therefore I have hope”. 

That’s HUGE!!!!

Whenever, literally whenever we feel like we have strayed all the way off track, whether it be personally…

I talked to my ex when I know there’s nothing good back there…

I didn’t guard my soul like I should have…

Whether it is professionally…

I’m not doing what God has called me to do…

I’m choosing to be like my coworkers instead of like Christ. I don’t want to be weird…

Or even on a global scale…

All of the tragedy I’m seeing has left me angry at my fellow man…

We have this precious ability to go to God, declare that we need Him more than ever and come away charged and knowing that in Him is freedom and a fresh start. 

Join me as I declare that this world is in dire need of a Day One….and yes I know that Earth has had many, but we are in need of another. And that’s ok. 

We are in need of a Day One faith in our ability to be agents of change.

In our ability to see people like He does.

In our willingness to trust that in all of this madness God’s name will be glorified regardless. It HAS to be. It hasn’t failed yet. 

Whatever your Day One is that you are facing, please don’t go into it feeling like you are undeserving of another one. Gods entire word is predicated on Him doing whatever to bring you home. You and I–and this world–are so worth it. 

Be blessed,


#PhenomenalWomanWednesdays: Giving a Word in Season


Hey, beautiful people! 

Have you ever heard of the term “rhema”? Rhema, or ῥῆμα in Greek, basically means “a thing said or an utterance” Often, you’ll hear Christians mention something being a “rhema word”, and that carries with it the heavy implication that it was a word in season, delivered right on time. Rhema words are often startling ( at least to me) because they hit right to the target of what I am dealing with or what was weighing on my heart. Rhema, in my opinion, comes directly from the Holy Spirit. 

All good, but what does that have to do with today’s post?” you might be wondering. Well, the person that I asked to guest blog today, is someone that I feel like the Holy Spirit centered right smack into my life right when she needed to be there. Our sisterhood, our friendship is what happens when you hear God speak and you act on it! Around January of last year, God highlighted Derricka and I just heard, felt in my bones that she was someone that I needed to get to know. She was going to be that true covenant friend–chasing God, encouraging me to keep on chasing…y’know, someone that filled many different roles. The only speed bump there was the fact that we never really interacted before.  I’d always seen Derricka around church, and we’d exchanged pleasantries but that was about it. God and I had a real frank conversation, one in which I told Him that I didn’t appreciate the idea of walking up to this woman and looking every bit of a stalker or a fool while saying “God told me we should hang out” (Note to self: Great Christian pick up line. Save for later. Joking. Holiness is still right *in my churchmotha voice*) God, in true Godly fashion, used His James Earl Jones voice (what I imagine God sounds like) and said DOOOOO ITTTTTTT. Not only that, but He kept putting us in situations together, as if to say “I’m giving you every opportunity to do what I told you to do.”

Long story short, I swallowed my fear at the possibility of mortification, and I did it. And because–duh–God won’t call us to do anything that is going to harm us, it has been incredible. Derricka’s entire presence in my life has been a Rhema word. She is timely, and yet she is timeless. She has a knack for calling/texting/emailing right when it’s necessary. She has spoken into my life in SOOO many areas, and God has used us both in crazy awesome ways over the past year and a half. Derricka has ALWAYS had a right on time word, thought and presence, and I have no doubt that what she has to say will bless enormously!
1. Jump in, jump out, introduce yourself! What are three things that we don’t know about you?

Oh, hey *insert smise because if you know me, you know I likes to smise*. My name is Derricka and I am a lover of LIFE. *insert finger-wagging theologians who have Matthew 10:39 locked and loaded* Yes, I LOVE life, and all that it entails. Everyday I have a clean slate and get to partner with God to shape it into something beautiful. How awesome is that? Plus, I only get one (on this side of eternity) So I may as well enjoy it, right?

 Can I just say, God is so timely. (If my blog isn’t enough proof for you, make sure to hop back to Joy’s post for the last #PhenomenalWomanWednesdays post. It’s so good!) No detail is too minor or too major for God and that brings me comfort. One of those things being the gift of Steph. I like that, “the gift of Steph”. It has a nice ring to it.

 Steph and I met at DHC about a year ago. I saw her in passing as she visited with Mama Karen (that’s my nickname for her mom. That woman is amazing.) I probably said “hey! Thank you so much for coming!” in passing. But never had a conversation with her. One day, she slid into my DMs and the rest was history! (In all seriousness, God laid it on her heart to reach out to me, and boy am I glad that this woman is obedient.) Steph is the “too good to be true” in my life. I have never met someone so selfless, so genuine, so empathetic to the needs of others. Her strength is quiet but fierce. She’s the friend that reminds me of the vision God had when he handcrafted me, and is ALWAYS there to remind me of such vision when my sight is blurred by the frustrations of life and my own attempts to self destruct.

So, three things people don’t know about me:

1. I cannot watch a situation where people are embarrassed. Whether it be in a t.v. show, a movie, in person. Seriously, my stomach turns in knots and I have to change the channel or walk away. I can’t stand to see people be humiliated. I’ve always been that way and still am to this day.

2. I LOVE assembly lines. Yes, where person A does their part and hands their contribution to person B. Person B does their part and hands it to person C, and so forth. Everyone does their part, every part is important. Everyone gets to operate in their gifts and the task gets done easier with less burn-out. I seriously get goosebumps when I get to work on a project “assembly-line style”. Can’t you just smell the synergy?

3. I have a slight obsession with Cheez-its, gummy bears (not worms, bears), and french fries. It is always a test of the heart when someone asks me for some, of any of these, and I have to make the decision to share and have less of these, or not share and feel like a jerk. These really are serious decisions for me. Like my countenance changes and everything lol. Pray for me, please?

 2. What is your biggest testimony right now?

My biggest testimony right now is that God is so stinkin’ faithful. I hear of God’s goodness all the time. I even see it in the lives of those around me. Sometimes, I start to wonder when God will do “that” thing in my life. But when I take time to connect the dots of my story. The fears He is delivering me from. The generational curses He is ending with me, the undeniable favor that follows me closer than a shadow…I must say, God truly is faithful.

 I always felt that I was set to fail. From a young age, I was constantly reminded of how chubby I was. I had “nicknames” like ‘Fat Legs’ or plain ole ‘Chubby’. Talk about your confidence builder. I was never able to finish anything I started in life, for one reason or another. Ballet, basketball, swimming, cheerleading, band. The only things I started and successfully finished were the things that I felt obligated to. School, and my chores. (I REFUSED to get a whoopin’ for not finishing cleaning the bathroom because ‘Proud Family’ was coming on. Learned my lesson, and it only takes one time.) I was bestfriends with the “popular girl” and wasn’t sought after by guys, asked to hang out, or anything. I was the really smart girl who stayed home on Saturdays to get a head start on next week’s homework, while people were at the movies or the go-go’s. (It’s a DC/MD thing. You wouldn’t understand.) My college career was a story of relocation, nomadism, and idolatry. Senior year, I would have been fine to just CRAWL across the stage. But God…

 He has used my lack of confidence to help me identify with other “pretty girls” who don’t feel so ‘pretty’. I remember those feelings of inadequacy, rejection, dejection, and can easily speak life over those fears. He has used my inability to finish things to give me a sense of accountability, responsibility, discipline, and consistency when it comes to completing projects and fulfilling commitments. Being “popular” was cool at that time, but being the girl who stayed home studying on Saturday nights earned me amazing grades and got me into every college I applied to. Every fear I have had about being like “that” parent, with “those” tendencies, God is showing me that He made me unique and that I DO NOT have to accept everything that is given to me. (Let that sink in). YOU DO NOT HAVE TO ACCEPT EVERYTHING THAT IS GIVEN TO YOU. You do not have to accept criticism grounded in ill-intentions. You do not have to accept bad habits passed down from parents. You do not have to accept the fear of failures that others have. In His own ways, in His own timing, God is undoing every hurt and redeeming these scars. Beauty for ashes.

 3. What is your favorite Bible verse and why?

 I actually have two favorite Bible verses.

 2 Samuel 7:28 (NIV) “Sovereign Lord, you are God! Your covenant is trustworthy, and you have promised these good things to your servant.”

 This is one of the first verses I found when I began to intentionally look for promises from God. It’s stuck to me ever since. God’s Word is His covenant. This verse literally says that His Word is trustworthy. The second part really gets me “…to your servant.” As a servant of God (what an honor), I am entitled to His promises.

 Numbers 23:19 (NIV) “God is not human, that he should lie, not a human being, that he should change his mind. Does he speak and then not act? Does he promise and not fulfill?”

 I use this verse to back up 2 Samuel 7:28 whenever I am believing Him for something. “God, you promised me that in due season, I would have _________. You are not a human being that you would say something and change your mind or not act on it. You do not promise something and not fulfill that promise. I can rest as I wait on you to move…”

 4. What is life teaching you right now?

Right now, life is teaching me total dependency on God. Remember that idolatry I mentioned? I was in a relationship with a guy that I made my god. I was willing to relocate my life for him at any notice, except that tugging I felt in my heart from God, and knowing I would miss my church family too much. My church has played a MAJOR KEY in my development in all areas of my life.

 After we broke up, God had to undo the ties and remove the longing for him, and replace it with the longing for Him. God was/is teaching me to believe in Him and wait on Him for the things I need and desire. My job, my car, my home, my grad school (surprise! I’m finna be a student again lol) I had to submit these desires to Him. Ensure that it aligned with His will for my life. Ask with crazy faith that He do it. Trust that He would do it. Then wait…Every single thing I prayed for, I got. Was it exactly what I thought it would be? Absolutely not. What is better? Most definitely. For the things I still long for, I am submitting my requests to Him, and following these same steps. The process ensures 100% chance of success. But with that, I am also learning that God’s “good” is ALWAYS better than my “good”, even if I don’t see it or understand it. So if what I asked for doesn’t happen how I wanted, or at all, I STILL win. (insert Young Jeezy adlibs)

 5. What does being a Christian woman mean to you 

To me, being a Christian woman means being a woman who walks closely with Jesus. She understands that sure she could have a ‘good’ life without Him. But choosing a ‘good’ thing over a ‘God thing’ is never wise, or fulfilling. I want to be a Christian woman who takes control of her emotions because without His peace and instruction, my thinking is irrational and act on impulse. I want to be a woman who is a fighter. Praying over EVERY situation. From what to eat for lunch, to how to have a hard talk with a wayward family member. Being a Christian woman is a woman who simply knows that life sucks without Jesus.

Incredible as always, Derricka…she never ceases to amaze me and I’m confident that something that she had to say that was a Rhema word for you as well. 

Be blessed!


#PhenomenalWomanWednesdays: The Art of Joy

Hello beautiful people!

I’m back at it again with another edition of Phenomenal Woman Wednesday. Have you ever had that friend where you couldn’t exactly remember the moment that started it all, but you realized that the intertwining of your life’s has changed the fabric of time? That sounds incredibly dramatic, but there are people who are movers and shakers, and there are others that are shifters. Joy SHIFTS. 

I met Joy through attending Destiny Harvest, and she quickly became irreplaceable. She has taught me how to love my heritage a bit more, speaks vision into my life, and encourages those giftings that God has placed on my life that were lying dormant beforehand—honestly, there might not be a Paper, Ink and Jesus if not for her. I have been writing since my early teens, and I went through a stage where my writing reflected my mindset. My poetry could be dark, angry, and sarcastic–it dealt with my fractured relationship with my dad, my singleness (and resulting lust), and my interactions with the public in unhealthy ways and became a tool for revenge moreso than an avenue for His peace….once I decided that I didn’t want to live like that anymore, I was at a loss–how was I supposed to use this really dynamic thing in a way to give God the glory? I stopped sharing and creating out of pure fear that my best wouldn’t be good enough. I stopped writing, and Joy was one of those God-sent agents of change that convinced me to start up again. She even took my stage name–Birthwrite–and refashioned it, because He makes all things new. 

Aside from that, though, one of the biggest lessons that I have taken from observing and just generally getting to know Joy is the transformative power of a crazy, bold faith. I’m not talking about crossing your fingers and hoping that life pans out in the way you hope for. Au contraire, mon frere. No, when I say big faith, I mean the kind that wills you to take huge steps because you have communed with God and you hear His voice, and though what He is saying doesn’t even fully make sense to you, you know that with His hand on it, the plan is infallible. So you go–and not begrudgingly either. You go expectantly, just waiting on Him to manifest Himself in people, situations, opportunities, God-moments, etc. And that is exactly what Joy has done. I won’t get into the nuts and bolts, because Joy has her own testimony to share. I know personally, I am going through a season where clarity is needed and vision is eagerly anticipated, so if you are at this crossroads of life, I trust that something that Joy has to say will speak to you as well. 

1. Jump in, Jump out…introduce yourself! What are three things that we don’t know about you?

Hello beautiful! My name is Joy and I’ve known Steph for three years. Honestly, I don’t remember how we met but life is full of pleasant surprises and Steph is one of my favorites. I do remember where though, church–probably because I needed a ride home. Anyway, it’s one of those “right on time” sisterhoods because God knew that I needed it BADLY. I’m so grateful to have her in my tribe.

As tiny as I am, I love food and I’m a serial snacker. My guilty pleasure is online window shopping and my browser is full of open tabs of clothing that I like but never buy. There’s a special place in my heart for classic (read: old) movies. Casablanca and Gone with the Wind are my favorites. I can watch them over and over again and I have.

2. What would you say is your biggest testimony right now?

Graduating from graduate school! Columbia was the last school that I applied to AND it was after I had received rejection letters from all the other schools that I applied to. Columbia was also far better than the other schools that I applied to so I was prepared for yet another “we appreciate your application” letter. Somehow they said yes and I ended up in NYC. It was and still is a revelation of “seek first the Kingdom and all things will be added” (Matthew 6:33). I’m still learning that God puts me in places that I am undeserving of and dare I say unqualified for simply because I have my eyes fixed on Him. What an incredible privilege that is. What tends to be overlooked is this tricky space between the seeking and addition called waiting. Ah, that’s the rub! 
However, God’s timing is perfection (yes, the noun). Well, duh! It’s takes a lot to say it and then a whole lot more to believe it. Borrowed words of wisdom: “God is not slow to act, He is slow to anger.” I’m more than grateful for the second part because I’m a struggle at times and God has been more than gracious because I can get a bit foolish. But the former refutes our frustration! His timing is perfect. We live life forward but understand in hindsight. On our timeline it looks like He’s slow or even withholding which is so unlike His nature (He’s the giver of all things-Romans 8:28). I consistently have “ohhh” moments when I realize how perfectly God has orchestrated the events in my life and those around me (Jeremiah 29:11). Simply being in NYC at this time required some God time-warping (and favor). I’m understanding that this particular time and place was molded to have me in it meaning that God thought of me before the beginning of time. Nuts! So God is in no way slow. He’s a master planner so just relax and let Him lead.
3. What is your favorite Bible verse and why? 
There are so many gems in Romans but Romans 8:19 has been my daily mantra. I’ve had this verse stuck in my mind since my move to NYC and the funny thing is I can never remember the reference (unless prompted) but the idea is permanently engrained– “all of creation is eagerly awaiting the reveal of God’s sons and daughters.” Creation has been waiting for me (and you)! I want to serve others, restore hope in those that were hopeless, feeling unworthy, forgotten and unheard but most importantly, I want to do what God has sent me on this earth to do–bring His children home. There is no one else that can do it the way I do. No one else with my gifts and experiences. It’s the ultimate locker room pep talk.
4. What is life teaching you right now?
Life is teaching me how to dream and know that God goes beyond my wildest dreams. There are so many things that I have prayed for that I’m living in now and other things that I’m glad were rejected. My reality is so different and so much better than what I planned for myself. Trading my life for LIFE has been an incredible upgrade.
5. What does being a Christian woman mean to you?
Being a Christian woman means that I strive to be an embodiment of God’s beauty so much so that others are encouraged to participate. It’s experiencing the freedom that comes with choosing and knowing Jesus. It’s making the gospel the obsession of my heart and living it out.
Isn’t she fantastic? Hope that this resonated with you somehow, and I’m looking forward to stories of your own crazy faith steps! 

Be blessed!